| Ever wonder how some people have so many | | | | control how long those thoughts stay with us and |
| friends and other's don't have so many? Ever | | | | what we do with those thoughts. Think about |
| wondered what you could do to attract more | | | | those around us that always seem positive and |
| people and be a better influence? There are | | | | happy. Do we really think they have perfect lives |
| certain techniques we can use to build our | | | | that are free of difficulties? Not so much. They |
| relationships, develop our leadership style, and be | | | | just have ways of keeping out of the "dumps" |
| a great influence on those around us. It's about | | | | and "funks" of life - Leaders find a way to |
| our relationship marketing or about how we | | | | manage their mindset, and we can too. |
| connect with other in our business, personal or | | | | Nurturing - Nurturing our circle of influence keeps |
| spiritual lives. When we think of developing our | | | | us connected. Leaders always find a way to stay |
| inner leader, consider how we treat others, talk to | | | | connected with others. Sometimes the word |
| others or show respect within our circle of | | | | "nurturing" may come with a "female" connotation, |
| influence. | | | | but males can nurture those connections, too. It's |
| Ask yourself, "Do I feel respected?" In developing | | | | really about finding ways to reach out, stay in |
| our leadership skills, perhaps we can find some | | | | touch and support each other. It may only take a |
| tips to strengthen our relationship circles or | | | | phone call, a word of encouragement, a quick |
| support network. | | | | email, or a golf game to nurture that relationship. |
| Kindness - It's important to be kind even to those | | | | Whatever it takes, step out and make an impact |
| we have a difficult time being around and working | | | | on those around you. Reaching out speaks |
| with on a daily basis. When you have an | | | | volumes. |
| opportunity to be kind to someone who is a | | | | Open-Mindedness -Keep an open mind about |
| "difficult personality" (you know, those | | | | different perspectives. Many times we encounter |
| personalities that require a little extra grace), | | | | someone we don't agree with or someone who |
| those on the receiving end may tend to be | | | | makes us angry because they want to do it "our |
| surprised and internally blessed by your kindness. | | | | way". It's important to respect their way of |
| It's up to us as leaders to be the "bigger person" | | | | getting the job done. We have to remember that |
| and not give into being difficult also...top it off with | | | | different people have different work styles, |
| kindness even when it feels tough and like a test | | | | different processes and different lenses through |
| of your will. | | | | which they view life. If we can find a way to see |
| Lift Up - Lift up others in prayer. Sometimes the | | | | their process and system with a level of curiosity |
| easiest way to get along with someone better is | | | | or a level of open-mindedness, we might be able |
| to pray for them. Find time to lift them up in | | | | to work though difficulties with a little more ease. |
| prayer even if we don't know what to pray for. | | | | Successful Leaders carry a large amount of |
| The Bible tells us to pray for our enemies, so | | | | respect for differing styles even when they don't |
| whether those around us are our "best friend" or | | | | agree with where we stand. Of course, there |
| if they really challenge us to the core, we can | | | | may be certain situations where open-mindedness |
| encourage silently by finding a way to pray for | | | | isn't always possible, but a discerning leader will be |
| them. If we don't know what to specifically pray, | | | | able to know when to step back and allow a little |
| then we might ask for guidance and wisdom for | | | | freedom. |
| being a positive impact and encouragement to this | | | | Hopefully, we can each adapt some of these |
| person. Lifting someone up in prayer will have an | | | | ABC's to our own relationships and begin to |
| incredible impact in more ways than we can | | | | strengthen the impact we're making on those |
| imagine. | | | | around us. There is an inner leader in each of us |
| Manage Mindsets - Our mind is truly a battlefield. | | | | and it's important to grow and tweak our |
| We cannot control the negative thoughts doubts, | | | | leadership skills, so we can set a great example |
| worries, etc. that come our way, but we CAN | | | | for those we influence. |