| ttom-link"> | | | | account! So notice, where is your attention? |
| | | | It’s definitely not on the group. By now |
| Have you felt knocked off-kilter’, | | | | you’ve probably REALLY lost them. |
| thrown for a loop’ or | | | | Instead: Make your mistake, notice that you |
| disgruntled’ at work or at home. | | | | made it in the moment, correct it if necessary, |
| How many times have you had a situation at | | | | and move on. Continue to be a fully engaged |
| work, or at home, where you felt knocked | | | | public speaker. Keep your attention on the |
| off-kilter’, thrown for a loop’ or | | | | presentation and the people in your audience. |
| disgruntled’? | | | | Leadership Coaching Scenario Two: You’ve |
| Probably not often (wink). But for you who have | | | | just completed a project that you think is really |
| experienced something like this, think about a | | | | great. You send it out to your team and the |
| particular situation. Did it come from a meeting, | | | | feedback is scathing. (Maybe not scathing, |
| conversation or project that didn’t go so | | | | but disappointing.) Here’s your chance: |
| well, some harsh feedback, a flub as a public | | | | option one - you shut down, start to focus |
| speaker or something that you just didn’t | | | | on how you’ve failed, how no one gets |
| expect? It often feels like failure. | | | | you, how you shouldn’t even be in this line |
| It happens to us all, and as painful as it is, this is a | | | | of work, how YOU are a failure. |
| place where there lies an abundance of | | | | Instead: Get your feedback, put it all in your |
| opportunity for growth in effective leadership. | | | | feedback basket, try to remember |
| Looking back at your event, what brought | | | | it’s not personal - it’s about |
| you back to center? Got you back on track? | | | | the thing. Quickly remember that feedback |
| Helped you move forward? My guess is that you | | | | is just feedback. What can you take from |
| recovered - it may have been a quick or | | | | this feedback and use to move you |
| long and painful process — but you did it. | | | | forward? What systems might you put in place |
| The act of recovery is a gift. It’s | | | | so this doesn’t happen again? For example, |
| an art - and it’s much like a muscle. The | | | | you might design in a structure for feedback |
| more you exercise it, the stronger it becomes. | | | | before completion. Finally, make any necessary |
| Recovery is the ability to get back or | | | | shifts, put this incident in your future learning |
| regain activity. And for effective leadership, | | | | resource file and move on. |
| recovery is essential. | | | | Leadership Coaching Scenario Three: |
| At a deeper level, the act of recovery also | | | | You’ve been exercising and eating clean |
| requires heart. Heart for yourself and heart for | | | | for one month! Things are moving along, energy is |
| others. Compassion. Think about a time you | | | | up, inches are disappearing. This whole self-care |
| goofed. What was necessary to forgive | | | | thing rocks! And zing! It’s the holidays - |
| yourself? When someone else falls down, | | | | parties, family, meals, and vacation all hit at once. |
| it’s essential to engage the heart and truly | | | | Here’s your chance: option one - let go of |
| give them the space, courage and compassion to | | | | all that good work; it’s a moot point |
| get up and come back stronger. | | | | anyway, why try? You’ve failed, so while |
| I believe heart, and the desire to create a positive | | | | you’re at it, you beat yourself up a bit. |
| impact, is at the center of recovery. | | | | Instead: Give yourself a break! Enough with the |
| We all have our special processes for recovery. | | | | self-bullying. Do what you can: move your |
| We all have our ways of engaging the heart. | | | | workouts to the morning, substitute the gym for |
| What are yours? Here are three common | | | | brisk walks with family, continue to eat clean AND |
| examples I see in personal coaching work with | | | | give yourself permission to enjoy some |
| others. | | | | celebratory cheer. Make it fun. |
| Leadership Coaching Scenario One: You’re | | | | For the rest of the month, notice when you need |
| giving a big presentation and you make a mistake | | | | to recover and exercise those muscles! |
| in the data. You feel yourself shuffle, perhaps | | | | These things are bound to happen and they can |
| flush, and so begins your inner dialogue: I just | | | | be really challenging when they do. And with a bit |
| totally messed up; oh, they’re never going | | | | of recovery, you’ll be right back on track |
| to ask me in again; I’m going to lose this | | | | moving forward to make the impact you want! |