Leadership Training Tip For the All Too Sensitive Leader

"Too Sensitive Leader: Great Tip for Overcominghurt their feelings or to cause them extra stress.
Being Too Sensitive"Additionally, the overly empathizing manager may
Leadership requires a degree of sensitivity, but ifsee any corrective action as confrontation rather
you're too sensitive, there will be problems, notthan influence, and so she does nothing.
only for you, but the people you lead.Since leadership calls for people to be fair to all
While every leader needs empathy, if this standsand to make sure the company's best interests
in the way of the mission getting done, manyare being protected, it's important to take an
negative repercussions result.enlightened look at how the manager can reframe
Consider for a minute the kinds of activitiesthis potentially negative situation and turn it around
associated with leadership that a manager whoso fairness prevails as the company's interests
carries empathy too far will not be able to do orare being protected.
to do well: * Give corrective feedback forIn helping companies develop their leaders, I'm
someone who has a negative attitude * Quicklyoften asked to give extra coaching to managers
and fairly follow company procedures forwho have tremendous potential, but who are
disciplinary action * As necessary "coach someonehaving struggles with delivering tough news when
out the door."necessary.
And these are just a few of the actions requiredMy goal as "The People Skills Lady" is to help
and expected of in managerial positions.others be "who they are, at their best."
While no one (or few people!) actually enjoysYou don't take a person who is sensitive and try
giving corrective feedback, think about theto make them insensitive. That's neither fair nor
negative impact if substandard actions anddoable. People are who they are and it's
attitudes are allowed to go unchecked: * Teamimportant, as long as the employee is the right fit,
members who are meeting or exceedingto allow the employee to develop their strengths.
expectations begin to feel the manager is playingThe good news is, there is much hope for the
favorites by not address the problem employee *manager who is too sensitive, or who empathizes
The rest of the team feels as though they havetoo much.
to work extra to make up for the person who isThe solution is to shift perspectives.
getting away with working less * As a result,When a manager is protective of the employee
morale suffers, and with it, the ability to get thewith sub-par behavior, this manager needs to shift
mission accomplished quickly and well isperspective to the company and remember that
compromised.their primary loyalty is to be sensitive of the
The manager who is too sensitive often feelscompany's needs
justified in not taking action right away when anAlso, it will serve the manager well to be
employee fails to work up to standards.empathetic with the remaining team members
Such a manager might like to think that thewho are forced to work above and beyond
behavior will correct itself, or she believes thatwhat's expected of them in order to cover for
this is not all that noticeable, and so there's nowork left undone by the substandard job
need to call attention to it.performance of the problem employee.
Most often the "too sensitive manager" reallyToo sensitive managers don't need to become
does care about people and doesn't want to sayhardened, uncaring automatons. They simply need
anything to the employee who's falling belowto shift their focus of empathy and sensitivity to
standards because the manager doesn't want tothe company and the team.